I am a little late on this latest blog post because I had a conference at a church I attend on Sunday night’s for their young adults ministry Connection. That conference changed my life and people say that kind of stuff all the time, but it really did for me. God, the creator of the universe came down and spoke to me clearly on some things and I am forever changed. If you are reading this thinking…”sure Amy, God the creator of the universe spoke to you right”, then feel free to email me at firstname.lastname@example.org and I would be happy to answer any question you may have concerning this judgment free.
It’s funny, the post that I am writing about today is all about decisions and what I learned this weekend at conference among MANY things is that God often times is just waiting for us to make a choice, a decision to follow him and hear what he is asking us to do. I don’t know about you, but often times I feel like I am being faced with a decision and I feel what Alli calls “Analysis Paralysis” in her book. We either let fear tell us we are not making the right choice, or we refuse to refine our choices, shut down and do nothing. Now, if you know me you know that my biggest blessing and my biggest flaw is my overthinking analytical brain. I drive myself, and even my (closest) friends and family crazy with it at times. I just want to know what to do next, what it’s going to look like….what I will be doing in 5 years, where I will live in 5 years and my brain just races and races. Does this sound like you?
What I gleaned from this chapter is to put a decision making framework into place. In the book they are described as the five F’s. I will lay them out for you below.
- Faith – In any decision in life it is important to pray and ask God for answers. (Now if you read this and say I am not faith based or something else, then feel free to skip this step but for me it is VERY important so I am including it.)
- Family – If you are married, you no longer get to just choose what you are going to do without discussing it AND coming into agreement on it with your spouse. It is just wrong and disrespectful to do as you are no longer just one person but a team making life choices together. If you are single, DO WHAT YOU WANT! Ha, no use wisdom and confide in one or two family members about what you are trying to decide and seek guidance from them as well.
- Future – Ask yourself, would my future self be ok with this decision? In 10 minutes maybe, in 10 months…now you’re thinking, and what about 10 years? Maybe it won’t matter, but this is a good idea Alli uses called the 10-10-10 approach when you don’t have all the time in the world to go through all of these steps.
- Fulfillment – How do you feel accepting the decision you are choosing to make on this? Is it fulfilling something in your life you want to move forward and towards? Or is it a fleeting decision that you tell yourself you are ok with now but really truthfully won’t be very fulfilled because of it in the end.
- Friends – CHOOSE WISELY not everyone is going to be your cheerleader and will support you, it is just the hard truth. Use wisdom on which friends to discuss your decision with and may I suggest only asking a few? The more you ask the more you are accountable to come back to and share all these things with. Not everyone is supposed to be in your inner circle….read about that here in an earlier blog post.
Applying this decision framework of course is not something you need to do on every little decision like “should I buy this top because its on sale?” And “do I eat that ice cream?” But hopefully it will help you like I plan to have it help me in making bigger decisions and helping you avoid your busyness.